Houd van jezelf. Dat is nog best makkelijk om op te schrijven. Maar hoe vertaalt zich dit in je leven? In je werk? In je dagelijkse minieme handelingen? In hoe je woont en leeft?
Paar jaar terug organiseerde ik samen met Alice de Houd van Jezelf-Dag op Valentijnsdag. Nu lijkt dit initiatief veel meer opgenomen in alle andere dienstverleningen en projecten. En ik sprak over dit onderwerp, deze bijzondere talk in juni jongstleden.
Ik sprak een aantal geïnspireerde frasen hiervan in een dialoog met een vriend. Het leek me meer een boodschap aan allen te zijn. Ik wil het daarom graag delen op deze plek. Het is in het Engels. Dat dan weer wel. Het leven kan humoristisch zijn. Voor het leesgemak heb ik het in 3 delen opgesplitst.
ENG - Yes, I am a book nerd. I read and speak five languages and 2 dead languages. Also, I read Akasha, Ether or the fifth dimension. I speak and write it as well. Recently, this became even more so. As if you went to a holiday in Italy and your Italian increased because of it.
I spoke some inspired phrases of this language in a dialogue with a friend. It seemed to me though, as if this is a message for all. For this reason, I would like to share the story here. To make it more easy to consume for you, I split the whole piece in three parts.
1/3 Respect, being free, sex and relationship
Wouldn’t you like to have an extra boyfriend or girlfriend? Do you think this is not possible because of your partners morals? "Out of respect for the other person I mutilated myself." Yeah what kind of respect is thát? In which country does that mean 'respect' and how do you think the other person will make this feel? No one can have an actual honest deep relationship that shuts parts of themselves off. It could mean that you have to deal with certain aspects of yourself that you dislike. Watching porn also is not a real solution for anything, it’s just misguiding yourself in the belief you are free while you are not. You might just not be aware of this yet. When you would be really aware of all of these desires and the way you think it should be handled, it would not have been there in the first place. So one thing you could do is trust the fact that you do have desires and thus be aware of it.
Well that’s in fact sheer logic: trust comes from yourself, never from the other person. The logic should be appealing to you. Trust comes from within oneself. Trust comes from trusting the bigger whole one lives inside. In the same sense I did things before myself. I said to my parents at a certain point: listen I need a big amount of money because I need to do this course, I'm sure I need it. Being sure they actually wouldn't understand - but they did because of a deep sense of soul trust between us and gave me the money. We had a problematic relationship in the past you see - and I knew this would even get better because of the course. Hope you see the analogy here. It's not 'normal' for a thirty-something woman to ask her parents for money.
It’s about speaking up - and the sense of trust (!) you actually gain from that. From speaking up about our deep truths and the more shallow needs that come with it naturally (like sex, time and money) we gain more trust and get the relationship at a soul level visible and tangible. Or you lose the connection - that's the ‘risk’. But your soul speaking up is actually never a risk - since it’s You.
Every wisdom you need is already inside you, as long as you make your individual connection to the places of higher wisdom that you can read. The wisdom that flows naturally through you and that have a relation to the energy field that is your source material (being sexual in nature), needs to go to people that can hear. They might not be friends in the usual sense for you. But you have to channel the right intention in the right energy holder. Don't confuse the holders. Don't try to force things through someone that belongs to another stream.
2/3 Real value, cryptocurrency, sexuality
People always like quick result, even in spirituality: the science of being. There is no spiritual shortcut because there is nothing to shortcut in reality. You are already there, you are already home - realise you are already at the place you are longing for. This is already your nirvana, the situation included however difficult, happy, or whatever. Drugs, sex, money, meditation, yoga: it all might just distract you from experiencing direct what is already present. Relationships, food, goals, no-goals, everything is distracting you from the fact you are already there. This is not in a philosophical way. It is in a literal way true. Get these words in as a truth on its own and see how this is true for you. Opinions, excuses, philosophies will only distract you from experiencing the truth of who you are - now and always.
Don't confuse knowledge with wisdom. Knowledge can be learned from books, stories, classes, history, culture and the like. Although these are beautiful resources: Wisdom is what you are about. It means to go to the place within yourself where true understanding lies. And we know you reached that place in your conversations with yourself if you read the earlier part of this text. We want to be very clear and specific about when you did, because that will make it more easy and accessible for you, realising when you did. The moments are actually marked by yourself. Where you say 'interesting', 'intriguing' for instance. Also, when you say: “She is right.” These moments, you had an understanding, behind the conversation, on a level far beyond speech or language - and these are the moments of real value we are talking about.
We are also talking about real value here - as referring to what you understand as the value of cryptocurrencies in a social way. This is what real value is to us - and it is important for you to understand. Because this is the real currency we are talking about when we would say something about currency, crypto or value to you. Value lies solely in these moments of real understanding between one another, not in any coin, although we understand that these values can be transferred to intermediaries like coins - this also being the real reason why we gave you, inspired you to and want you to work with crypto and any other currency system. Just understand that real value only and exclusively lies in the great and very real understanding that is in, beyond and foregoes these moments of true human and spiritual understanding you experienced in for instance reading this text.
This is why and how these conversations can be sacral - and the only way they are valuable in a true sense. True value is always recognizable in the relationship it has to truth - not having a relation so much to your cultural time and forms, although on the other hand values have forms in the human sense as well, and you have to learn to see through them as well as see them. So one of your biggest moments of true understanding with truth and value in general, during this time of great transformation you are all in, came in at the point where there could be an understanding about your sexual relationships, the negative and positive poles in them, both aspects being sexually driven, especially when reading and in remembering the start of this story in 1/3.
3/3 Sexuality: listening in an enhanced way
Understanding the value of sexuality as a primal earthly force might be one of the most beneficial things you could integrate in this lifetime - this also leading to great knowledge, for which we might actually have to say the word wisdom as we explained already before in part 2/3. Sexuality leads to wisdom when used in the right way, and this does not (always) involve the actual physical act of sex as you as humans most easily understand it. Nor in the emotional psychological sense.
It has a form of directness to it, that is a language of its own. Speaking it does not (always) involve sexual acts in a physical, emotional, pornographic or any other sense. It just means: listening in an enhanced way. And responding the like. It means responsibility in fact. And this does refer back to our mentioning true value.
Yes your coming together as writer and reader has a sexual meaning, but in a deeper sense, that you might just not grasp fully, but you will understand later on, whether you will keep these words in any digital or paper memory or not. Being spoken, they cannot be made undone anymore and these records are stored in the realms of Akasha, of true wisdom, and you will always be able to remember them, for you are the ones able to read your storage and the language of Akasha in general. The key is already in your hand, we would like to point that out to you just now so you will never forget.
We know you are presented potential lovers in this time and space. But your one true task experiencing this, is: You have to love yourself far beyond how much you think you love them. Only then your life purpose is revealed as the path to realistically walk on step by step. You will cross the biggest possible gaps of time, love, value, money and sex you ever faced with this tiny formula.
* I would like to thank my friends for having me speak this talk in answer to their questions and helping me formulate these thoughts instantly; a story that was mostly channeled in june 2015 in the app Telegram.
* Graag wil ik mijn vrienden bedanken die me dit lieten uitspreken als reactie op hun vragen en die me hielpen deze gedachten spontaan en direct uit te spreken; een verhaal dat voor het overgrote deel werd gechanneled in juni 2015 door te schrijven in de Telegram-app.
PS De strekking van dit verhaal, en om hier meer van te proeven in wat het voor jou persoonlijk betekent, speelt een rol in het najaar 2015 nieuw te starten programma Creatief Leiderschap. Je bent van harte uitgenodigd om hier aan mee te doen. Een proefdag zal de opmaat vormen voor de start van de serie bijeenkomsten waar men zich individueel voor intekent.